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There were so many parts of this post that spoke to me. But, "The truth can hurt, but it can also propel you forward. Decide what you want to focus on." I felt that in my chest. Thank you for writing this and sharing with all of us!

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It’s humbling to remember the bow and arrow effect. Sometimes we feel like being pulled back sucks but it’s the momentum needed to go farther than ever. Thanks for reading, Stanley.

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It hit!

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Thanks Corry! ♥️

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Touching base definitely spoke out to me. Working on models and programming should be a part of my routine again. Thanks cuzzo!

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Geek out my lovely cousin 👏🏾😂

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1, oh yes often people over focus on the messenger and the delivery, as someone trying to often be direct and not filled with read between the lines messaging with folx this hits from the messenger often despised perspective hahaha

2, you can share and give love in your most authentic ways and if its not the way another receives or focuses on receiving it can feel minimal. Inspiration can be right there just around the corner, sometimes like this one click away

3, a couple months back to SF to reconnect with being valued

4, base daily couple intentional breaths as the tea brews in the am and weekly when I see a Chiro and other Therapist :)

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1. 🙋🏾‍♀️ I too can do better with delivery lol

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thank you, so much, for each of these points. I feel so deeply spoken to in the best possible way and I feel like so many need to receive these words, as gentle reminders. Hope the solo tip hits too! Also, congrats on your substack growth, celebrating already for your first 100!

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Thank you. I really enjoyed Iceland, so I was thinking of going to Norway next or completely shift climates and look into a yoga retreat in Nicaragua lol. Are there any places you've really enjoyed and can't stop recommending?

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This hit. 🥹

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Thank you, Sharifa.

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To the desk of Rachel, Three Gifts In Cartagena, I can’t agree with you more. Our sentiment for learning should always ignite a splash for lore, yet too often the excitement evaporates into the tendency caught between resistance and our ego.

Asking questions has always been nourishing for me,

a standard, classical, simplistic, and academia approach to learning. As your first gift offers

“Take the message, ignore the messenger.”

For example, I tell my wife it’s alright to ask questions, if necessary, ask more, and more.

She is not much of a reader but an audio-learner and not necessarily by social media but through active listening, television, and movies like The Paper Chase 1973, To Sir With Love 1969, Educating Rita 1983 among other quality documentaries that beg the audience to search for inquiry, and ask questions.

I have no problem receiving either one of the gifts. In fact. I am a big fan and advocate for proper and appropriate learning. Yet sometimes I will get a push back from my best friend whose ego sometimes gets lost and falls between the cracks.

However, the three gifts can be a challenge toward those who fret and envy others. resisting for whatever reasons, especially those with whom aren’t classical learners — maybe not learners at all, or may feeling ambivalent toward what appears as a conflict of descension from a husband, friend, or family member. Alas, much, not so. Because she is much smarter than me, my significant other, though our wires sometimes become cross threaded for whatever reason. It alludes to a clashing cliche moment.

Final thought, the lack of wisdom — not always the reason for a push back, as much as being an egomaniac, narcissist or a slacker. On the one hand, asking questions suggests “basic learning.” This is the only way to learn. On the other hand, may create a push back, or resistance, not only among the young adults but from those with whom feel some kind of way.

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Thank you Mrs. Leeke. You were able to simplify in eight words what I failed to streamline in eight paragraphs. The luxury in what I must perfect. The ability to circumvent discursiveness will create the true craftsman.

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Beautiful reminders as we go through this crazy journey called life 🥹

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Wow. This resonated. I used to take solo trips often. It’s been a while. I love what you say about rest being integral to success. Whew 🔥

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Glad it found you, Starr! ☺️

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