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not the “ Them portraits won’t draw themselves.” caption taking me out 🤣🤣

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It’s the gif for me. I love how the head is bald except for the lil grass blade pigtails 😂😂😂😂

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“Someone dear to me calls haikus text messages 😂. What are your thoughts on them?”

it defo is text messages.

all i know is if haiku didn’t exist, ill have probably invented it. Because my attention span is beautifully short hence i appreciate short beautiful musings that make me smile, think, imagine, or question everything.

As for the other questions in this post, i’ll be in the comments holding up a lantern looking for answers or more questions.

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I wonder if the love/fear question is connected to the freedom/safety one.

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100%

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Great read!! Love all the gifs, you’re amazing.

This hit home!!! Currently in a season of needing to utilize my community of people who genuinely want to support me. I’m so used to getting things done my way on my terms that when I’m physically incapable I’ve struggled to let go and let my community lift me up. One question I have is, any coping mechanisms to help with accepting support without having a tab in your head “I owe this person” - or tools to support not feeling like a burden?

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Relatable. Perceived control helps so many of us get through a chaotic often unpredictable world. I struggle with being helped too.

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Welcome to your season, Rachel!

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Thanks for the mention, Rachel! 🫶 Moving furniture around in your heart - ah, what a great line! It’s the breadcrumbs we keep leaving each other, right?

And I appreciate this one right here. Eeek, 🫣for me, when it comes to asking for help it’s that uncertainty you mention that freezes me up. Uncertain support pushes me into isolation at times. The reluctance to dance with any friction pushes me into my own corner where I insist on NOT needing help. The figuring it out so I get it done myself. And you know what’s on the tail side of that? Resentment! Ha! Over things I don’t even ask for. That bitch resentment lives on my chest some days. And I put her there!

Thanks for this exercise in peeling it back.

The GIFs are a treat and haikus as text messages!?!? 😂 I’m going to start a text thread with my girlfriends and insist we exchange some.

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Yes! Resentment is certainly a factor when we close ourself off to help, also burnout too! It’s exhausting to do it all ourselves.

I love the idea of trading haikus 🥺 your friends are lucky to have you.

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Hi! Thank you for the shoutout I really appreciate it 💜

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Thank YOU for sharing!

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No one is ever so self-sufficient as to not need help, however, with time, we learn to not ask for things we know others cannot or won't give us. So, it's mostly fear.

This fear is not necessarily bad, but we do have to know it and not confuse it with love, otherwise, we'll think we like something when we don't, and we'll refuse to ask for help when we could actually get it.

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This is excellent!! I pride myself on being self sufficient and as I’ve aged have grown better at asking for help. It is such a sting to finally trust someone and have them fall short when you knows come through for them

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🙂 I’m so glad you enjoyed. I’m right with you. Learning to ask for help has made me realize being strong revolves around your own capabilities and knowing when to look for support is listening to one’s intuition. That’s a strength within itself

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